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17 Years in Business as a Coach
Darlene Hawley
The journey to starting and growing my business has been challenging. During the first two years in my business, I helped a handful of business owners to build their businesses. (I even coach a few of them still today.)
I love that Sarah Dupree of Dream Weaver Media captured some of my magic with this amazing photo!
August marks being in business as a coach for 17 years.
The journey to starting and growing my business has been challenging.
During the first two years in my business, I helped a handful of business owners to build their businesses. (I even coach a few of them still today.)
I struggled, though.
Clients were sporadic and far from consistent.
I wasn't clearly communicating my message and allowing others to get to know me truly. After nearly losing everything, I broke down, almost quit, and considered returning to a J-O-B.
Luckily for me, that rock bottom was precisely what I needed to gain clarity on what it's like to struggle with starting a business. I was able to rebrand, rebuild my framework and core messaging, and finally figure out my secret sauce and run my business on my terms.
For the past 17 years, my journey as a business leader has been one of continuous growth and evolution. As I reflect on this remarkable accomplishment, I am reminded of the lessons I have learned about using my voice, speaking up, standing out, and making an impact in the work that I get to do.
These lessons have shaped not only the trajectory of my business but also my role as a facilitator who leads, empowers, motivates, and listens.
Here are 17 insights I've learned about harnessing the power of my voice to lead effectively.
- Clarity Matters: Communicate your message, vision, and goals clearly. Otherwise, as Donald Miller says, "When you confuse, you lose."
- Get Curious: Listen Intently and seek to understand your clients and team's concerns and ideas before making decisions.
- Empathy Is Key: Show understanding and compassion towards others. Empathetic leaders build stronger connections and trust.
- Authenticity Builds Trust: Be genuine in your communication. Authenticity fosters credibility and trust among others. People want to connect with you, not who you think you "should" be.
- Adaptability Is Crucial: Business landscapes change. Being adaptable in your communication style helps you navigate these shifts more effectively.
- Transparency Builds Confidence: Openness about challenges, successes, and decisions builds a culture of trust within your organization and with your community.
- Lead by Example: Demonstrate the values and work ethic you expect from others. Actions often speak louder than words. I will never ask someone to do something I'm unwilling to do.
- Positive Reinforcement Motivates: Recognize and appreciate people's efforts. Positive reinforcement encourages higher performance.
- Constructive Feedback Drives Growth: Provide feedback that helps others to improve. It should be specific, actionable, and geared towards growth and goals.
- Clear Delegation Is Vital: Delegate tasks clearly, outlining expectations and desired outcomes. Always have a plan for following up and ensuring everyone is on the same page.
- Conflict Resolution Skills Are Necessary: Address conflicts promptly and professionally, fostering a harmonious work environment.
- Inspire and Motivate: Use your voice to inspire and pursue excellence. Motivated teams are more productive and creative.
- Effective Communication Channels Are Needed: Establish efficient communication channels to ensure information flows seamlessly throughout the organization.
- Crisis Communication Requires Calmness: During challenging times, your voice as a leader should convey reassurance and a steady approach.
- Continuous Learning Is a Must: Be open to learning new communication techniques. Evolving leadership strategies keep your approach fresh.
- Recognize Achievements Publicly: Celebrate wins and acknowledge individual and team achievements openly.
- Strategic Communication is Essential: Tailor your communication to different audiences - employees, stakeholders, clients - for maximum impact.
Bonus Tip:
18. Roleplay: Use roleplay to embody your communication as a leader before you have a difficult conversation.
Leadership is something that is cultivated in everyone, not just those who hold a title. This is why part of my mission as a communication trainer is to work with the entire team inside of organizations so that we can all rise together.
I learned a long time ago if we only work with those at the top of the organization, it doesn't trickle down to the team and the impact is small.
Let’s play all in and play big!
As I continue to navigate the ever-changing landscape of business and executive leadership, these lessons remain top of mind. They remind me that each of us has leadership inside us; it's about using one's voice to inspire, guide, and uplift.
If we want to be better communicators when speaking to a group, when navigating difficult conversations, or when we are looking to close more business, then it's time to use our voices to ask for what we want and support others around us to build the confidence to speak up as well.
Remember, every time we speak up for the ideas and issues that mean the most to us, it gives permission to others to speak up, too!
Cheers to the next 17+ years of success!
xoxo,
Darlene Hawley
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Hey There!
I'm Darlene
As a mother, wife, connector, and dream builder, I’m Darlene Hawley, the founder of DarleneHawley.com and an Executive Leadership & Businesss Coach dedicated to empowering leaders like you.
My passion lies in helping ambitious professionals cultivate their unique leadership style while crafting an authentic and impactful personal brand. Through my coaching, we’ll work together to build a solid foundation that not only inspires your team but also drives results and growth within your organization.
Since 2007, I have been committed to guiding leaders and entrepreneurs in launching and scaling their businesses with confidence and clarity.
Today, I focus on supporting women in reaching their leadership goals and living their dream lives—all while balancing the joys of raising my family and creating meaningful memories each day.
Together, we’ll transform your challenges into opportunities, allowing you to lead with authenticity and inspire those around you.
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The Day I Learned That Selling Isn’t About Selling Ten years ago, I was on a sales call with someone who I knew would benefit from working with me. I had all my points prepared, I knew the value of my offer, and the moment I started “explaining” the coaching package, I could feel her pulling back. She went quiet. Her energy shifted. You know that moment when you can tell someone is already backing away even though you're still mid-sentence? I paused, smiled and took a deep breath and said, “Can I tell you a quick story?” I shared how I’d once been in her exact shoes... unsure, overwhelmed, and wondering if investing in myself was really the right move. I told her how I’d made that leap anyway… and shared what had changed for me during that process. That’s when she leaned in. She wasn’t sold by my offer. She was moved by the story. And that’s when I realized: Storytelling sells—without the “salesy used car salesman” vibe. Why Storytelling Works So Well in Sales Let’s be honest...no one wants to feel sold to, yet we all love to buy. What people do want is to feel seen, heard and valued. And storytelling does exactly that. In fact, studies show that people remember stories up to 22x more than facts alone. And even more powerful? A story creates emotion... and emotion drives action. If you’re struggling to convert prospects into clients, it’s not that your offer isn’t good. It’s that you might not be telling the right story to make someone feel why it matters. 3 Types of Stories That Sell (Without Feeling Pushy) 1. The “I’ve Been Where You Are” Story This is your empathy bridge. When you share a relatable story from your own experience, your audience sees themselves in you. You’re not just a coach, consultant, or expert.... you’re a human being who gets it. Example: “I used to feel invisible online. I would write a post, hit publish, and hear crickets. It wasn’t until I started sharing my story that people began engaging, reaching out, and eventually becoming a client.” This story builds trust and shows them, “If she figured this out, maybe I can too.” 2. The Client Success Story People like proof, evidence of how it will work. And no, this doesn’t mean sharing stats or results in bullet points. It means telling the transformation journey. Example: “Jackie, a life coach, came to me unsure of what to say in her content. After taking my storytelling course, she started sharing her story in her newsletter and during conversations and landed three new clients within the first month. Why? Because her audience felt connected to her.” It’s not about showing off, it’s about showing what’s possible. 3. The Vision Story Paint the picture of what life could look like for them if they take action. The power of this story lies in aspiration. Example: “Imagine waking up with clarity around your message. You open your laptop, write a post with confidence, and get a message from someone who says, ‘I felt like you were speaking directly to me.’ That’s what happens when your story connects.” When people can see their future selves in the story you tell, they want more of what you have to offer. How to Start Using These Stories in Your Sales Process Now that you’ve got the story types, here’s where to use them: On your website – especially your About page and sales pages In your emails – every time you’re adding value or selling connect with a story On strategy calls – as a way to shift from pressure to connection On social media – to build relationships and nurture your community Tip: Start building a Story Bank. Open a notes tab or a doc and jot down 2–3 small moments from your life or business each day. That way, when it’s time to write content or show up for a launch... you’re never starting from scratch. Selling Through Story Isn’t Manipulative—It’s Meaningful When you tell stories with heart and authenticity, you’re not convincing people to buy, you’re helping them see that they’re not alone. You’re offering a way to move forward. And when you do that? Selling doesn’t feel awkward, It feels like service. One of my mentors, Kendrick Shope, always says: “Selling is helping.” And she’s absolutely right. Because when you sell through storytelling, you’re not pushing, you’re guiding. You’re inviting people into a transformation that you know is possible. When you lead with your heart and with empathy and share your truth, you're not just building a business... you’re building trust What might shift for you if you started weaving more of your story into how you connect with your team, clients and community?
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Welcome back to the Attract and Stand Out Podcast! In this inspiring episode, host Darlene Hawley sits down with transformational coach and author Lenore Kantor. They dive into Lenore's journey from corporate executive to transformational coach, where she now helps high achievers unlock greater personal growth, professional fulfillment, and higher income. Lenore discusses the importance of authenticity, the challenges of entrepreneurship, and her new book, 'So What Do You Do? The Authentic Alchemy Path to Find Who You Are'. Whether you're a leader looking to navigate career transitions or an entrepreneur seeking authentic alignment in your work, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Tune in to discover how to embrace change, align with your true self, and show up authentically in your professional and personal life. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:51 Lenore's Background and Journey 03:12 Navigating Career Transitions 06:36 Challenges of Entrepreneurship 09:11 Adapting to Change 14:50 Authenticity and Leadership 23:52 Future Plans and Projects 26:59 Rapid Fire Questions 30:14 Conclusion and Farewell ------- Lenore Kantor is a transformational coach, author, mentor, career advisor and inspirational speaker who guides smart high-achievers to greater personal growth, professional fulfillment and higher income by overcoming their blocks to creating soul-aligned work. She is the author of So, What Do You Do? The Authentic Alchemy Path to Find Who You Are, an unconventional guidebook and eight-step path for conscious leaders to discover their work in the world (launching February ’25). Lenore's holistic multi-disciplinary approach evolved over 30+ years as a former corporate marketing executive, soulpreneur and founder of Growth Warrior. Lenore integrates empathy with no BS, business strategy, marketing and product launch expertise with intuitive insight and multiple healing modalities. She's a former corporate marketing executive and has been a strategic advisor and outsourced CMO to high-growth businesses, mentored founders across multiple startup accelerators, and is a Capstone and Career Advisor to Bard’s MBA in Sustainability and part of Columbia’s Career Coaching Network. www.growthwarrior.co https://www.linkedin.com/in/lenorekantor https://www.instagram.com/lenorekantor/ https://www.facebook.com/growthcoach/ ---- Hi I'm Darlene Hawley, and I help entrepreneurs and executive leaders find their voice and mastering communication in high-stakes conversations and presentations, whether in the boardroom, on a sales call, or around the dinner table. Grab my 10 Do's and Don't for Effective Daring Conversations: https://mailchi.mp/297e8105e904/communicationguide Grab my 6 Steps To Attract & Stand Out digital guide, a free roadmap to create a successful business with less hustle and more ease: https://bit.ly/attractandstandoutonline Grab a Chai and let's Connect: https://darlenehawley.com https://linkedin.com/in/darlenehawley
