Who It’s For: Entrepreneurs, Senior Business Leaders, Managers, Sales Professionals, Female Leaders, and R&D, Innovation, DEI, and Other Critical Teams
Smart, Capable, and Still Holding Back? You’re Not Alone (Here’s Why)
Darlene Hawley
For Women Who Are Ready to Stop Shrinking and Start Leading.
Veronica built her business from the ground up, fueled by determination, passion, and a clear vision.
She wasn’t just good at what she did... she was EXCEPTIONAL!
Her clients raved about her. Her inbox was full of thank-you notes. Her revenue kept growing.
But when it came time to talk about her work... on a podcast, a panel, or in front of a potential partner... her throat would tighten. Her mind would race.
She’d rehearse over and over, rewriting every sentence to sound “smarter.”
And when she did speak, she’d rush through it, smile politely, and feel exhausted afterward.
Veronica told me, “I feel powerful when I’m working with clients. But the moment I have to talk about me and my ideas? I freeze.”
She didn’t need more practice. She needed safety.
She needed a space to stop performing and start embodying her voice.
The Real Reason Smart Women Stay Silent
Studies show 70% of high-achievers deal with imposter syndrome. But that stat doesn’t capture the full picture.
What it often looks like is this:
Avoiding visibility because you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing
Over-preparing for meetings or panels just to feel “ready”
Playing small in your marketing or content even though you know your work is powerful
Letting others lead the room, even when you have something important to say
And here's what I want you to know:
This isn’t about lack of talent, ambition, or capability.
It’s about your nervous system not feeling safe.
That’s why I don’t just coach clients through what to say. I help them feel grounded in their body so they can say it with presence, clarity, and confidence.
How We Shifted Veronica’s Voice Back Into Alignment
Working with Veronica, we took a different approach... one that spoke to the whole woman behind the brand:
~ We worked with her inner critic... not against it.
Instead of trying to “shut it down,” we got curious about where it came from. Spoiler: It was trying to protect her, so we gave it a new job.
~ We added safety to her nervous system before BIG spotlight moments.
Veronica built a pre-speaking ritual... incense, grounding touch points, and saying her message out loud while walking around her backyard barefoot (her idea, and it worked). It became her way of “reclaiming her space.”
~ We simplified her messaging.
Not to make it less powerful, but to make it more her. We stripped away buzzwords and leaned into clarity, storytelling, and the phrases that made her audience lean in.
~ We practiced. A lot. Walk and Talk
Role-play wasn’t about “getting it right.” It was about building comfort, nuance, and ease. Veronica got to feel what it was like to land her message, and let it sit without apology.
~ We worked on her call to action... without the awkwardness.
She used to end every talk with “Thanks for having me!” Now, she leads people to the next step... confidently inviting them into how to stay connected and if the right move to work together.
The Transformation?
She recently led a virtual workshop where, mid-way through, a participant messaged her saying, “This is the most grounded and clear I’ve ever seen you.”
Veronica said she didn’t even flinch.
“Because this is me now.”
Here’s the thing:
You don’t need a new script. You need support that honors both your voice and your nervous system.
That’s what my vocal empowerment work is all about.
Because being seen and heard shouldn’t feel like a performance.
It should feel like you... fully present, fully expressed, fully powerful.
If your voice has been feeling stuck... especially in high-stakes moments... you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out alone either.
I’ve opened up a few fall coaching spots for women ready to lead, speak, and sell with more ease and clarity.
🎤 If you’re preparing for a big speaking moment…
📣 If you’re tired of shrinking in meetings…
💡 If you want to feel more YOU in your marketing…
Let’s talk.
You’ve already done the work. Now it’s time for your voice to match the magnitude of your mission so you can make a bigger impact in the world.
✨Ready to Own Your Story and Attract Your Dream Clients?✨
If you’re ready to stop second-guessing your message and start using storytelling as a powerful tool to connect, inspire, and sell—then I’d love to invite you to my It’s Time to Own Your Story: Mini-Course.
In this self-paced course, you’ll learn how to:
✔️ Identify the key moments in your story that captivate your audience.
✔️ Share your story in a way that builds trust and positions you as the go-to expert.
✔️ Use storytelling across your website, social media, and sales conversations to attract and convert more clients.
Plus, you’ll get a
step-by-step workbook and
personal feedback on your brand story—so you can start sharing with confidence.
Hey There!
I'm Darlene
As a mother, wife, connector, and dream builder, I’m Darlene Hawley, the founder of DarleneHawley.com and an Executive Leadership & Businesss Coach dedicated to empowering leaders like you.
My passion lies in helping ambitious professionals cultivate their unique leadership style while crafting an authentic and impactful personal brand. Through my coaching, we’ll work together to build a solid foundation that not only inspires your team but also drives results and growth within your organization.
Since 2007, I have been committed to guiding leaders and entrepreneurs in launching and scaling their businesses with confidence and clarity.
Today, I focus on supporting women in reaching their leadership goals and living their dream lives—all while balancing the joys of raising my family and creating meaningful memories each day.
Together, we’ll transform your challenges into opportunities, allowing you to lead with authenticity and inspire those around you.
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I was facilitating a one-day Speak Up & Influence team-building experiential training when I noticed her sitting quietly in the back of the room. She participated, but never fully spoke her mind, staying just under the radar, what I like to call "playing it safe". After one of the vocal empowerment activities, I walked over and said, “You know, the way you just helped your group reframe that challenge? That’s leadership. And I don’t think anyone’s told you lately... but you have a really powerful presence when you speak.” She blinked, stunned. Then smiled...a BIG cheesy grin. “Wow. I… don’t think anyone’s ever said that to me,” she said. “I thought I was just rambling.” That moment changed her energy and how she showed up the rest of the day. She spoke up more. She leaned in. She took more space. By the end of the day, she was laughing with her colleagues and, dare I say, being Bold and having FUN. That’s the power of being seen. Not liked. Not evaluated. Not coached. Witnessed. Witnessing Is Deeper Than Praise Recognition isn’t just about saying “good job.” It’s about creating space for people to feel seen in the room. And as an executive leadership coach, trainer, and speaker, I believe this is one of the most powerful tools we have. It’s part of why I teach the Step into Your Moxie® Vocal Empowerment Framework to help people speak with confidence and presence, And to help them feel safe enough to show up as unapologetically as themselves. The framework includes: Naming the Inner Critic Creating Psychological Safety Clarifying the Message Owning Presence Moving People to Take Action But none of that sticks if we don’t feel witnessed. The Real Role of Recognition in Leadership Recognition is not limited to annual performance reviews. It’s being in the moment with someone. It’s telling the truth of what you see... and helping them see it too. When we recognize someone for who they are, not just what they do, it creates: Trust Confidence Belonging Momentum It tells them, “You matter. Right now. Just as you are.” And for many people, that’s enough to shift everything. How Vocal Empowerment Starts with Being Seen I’ve worked with countless leaders who don’t need help with strategy... they need to be reminded they have a voice worth sharing. Their ideas aren’t the problem. Their presence is stifled by years of not being heard. And when someone finally says, “I see you. I hear you. I believe you have something valuable to say,”... they rise to the occasion. That’s what witnessing does. That’s what coaching is. And that’s what powerful leadership should include. My Truth About Leadership + Visibility I believe every single person deserves to be put in a position where they are the leader. But leadership is not one-size-fits-all. It’s not about being the loudest or most polished. It’s about being thoughtful about the right kind of visibility... and showing up unapologetically as yourself. We need more leaders who understand this. Who witness others without fixing them. Who show people what’s possible by being real, not rehearsed. How does it feel when someone truly witnesses you... not just your performance, but your presence? And who in your world could use that kind of recognition right now? Say it. Share it. Watch them light up. Try This: A Visibility Icebreaker That Builds Trust Here’s a simple, powerful exercise I love using to open workshops, team meetings, or small groups: Two Truths and a Lie: Leadership Edition Each person shares: Two true things about how they lead, speak, or show up One “lie” they used to believe about themselves Example: ✔ I’m a clear communicator ✔ I make people feel safe when I lead ✖ I’m not good at public speaking (← the old lie) This twist brings visibility and vulnerability together... without putting anyone on the spot. It allows people to own their growth and shift their inner critic by speaking it out loud. Try it. Let me know how it goes with your next team meeting. Coming Next in Part 4: Crafting Connection: Simple Rituals to Help You and Your Team Feel Seen Because being witnessed isn’t a one-time act. It’s a culture. It’s a practice. And it starts with you.
We’ve never been more connected... and never felt so unseen. With a few taps, we can join a Zoom room, drop into a DM, or post something vulnerable for hundreds of people to witness. But there's a disconnect. And in a tech-driven world where everything moves fast and engagement is measured in emoji reactions… are we truly connecting... or just being consumed? “To be recognised, you have to be seen, you have to be heard – and that requires a witnessing that can’t happen in two-second increments.” —— Allison J Pugh in her article The Unseen in Aeon Magazine You can post every day and still feel invisible. You can be in a dozen Slack channels and still feel isolated. You can have 10k followers and feel like no one is really paying attention. Because we’ve built a world where connection is constant... but deep roots are rare. The Pace of Tech vs. the Slowness of Being Seen We scroll fast. We skim emails. We record meetings and never rewatch them. But being seen takes time. It requires presence. Stillness. The very things today’s digital culture works against. And when you’re constantly “on”, but rarely witnessed... it’s easy to feel like you’re disappearing in plain sight. This is especially true for entrepreneurs and leaders. We’re told to post, share, create, show up, stay visible… and yet, we’re rewarded for comments, not true connection. That’s the tension we’re living in... and the one we need to name. Why I Don’t Create for Social (and What I Do Instead) Let’s get honest, social media isn’t the main event... it’s the after-party. The first time someone finds me isn’t on LinkedIn. It’s at a speaking event, on a podcast, or through a referral. Then they follow me on social. Then they join my newsletter. Social media isn’t where I get discovered. It’s where I nurture relationships that already exist. That’s why I don’t create for the algorithm... I write for my community. I share my heart through emails and long-form blog or video content. Then I repurpose it on social... not to “go viral,” but to stay connected. And here’s the magic part: Some of my clients? They’ve been on my list for 6+ years. Never replied to a post. Never commented. And one day... they book a call. Because they’ve been listening the whole time. They were waiting for the right moment.... not the right reel. When Tech Makes You Feel Small But even with that perspective, I still feel it. That sting when you pour your heart into a post and it gets 3 likes. That feeling after a Zoom room full of “great people!”… but the coffee chat that follows doesn't convert to referrals or business. That’s what the fast pace of our digital world does. It makes us visible... but not witnessed. It makes us accessible... but nothing deeper becomes of it. You can have the right lighting, captions, camera angle... and still feel like no one’s really seeing the person behind the post. The Shift: From Performance to Presence The solution isn’t more hustle or noise. It’s more presence. So, if you're feeling invisible right now, even while showing up “everywhere,” hit pause and take a breath. Ask yourself: Am I sharing because I have to, or from a place of inspiration? Am I connecting, or just posting to stay in the feed? Who am I hoping will really see me? Then, choose one way to show up differently this week. Call someone instead of commenting. Write the post that feels inspiring, not strategic. Or close the laptop and go be with real people, even when it feels uncomfortable. Because yes, people are watching... even if they’re silent. But more importantly, you deserve to feel connected, even when tech feels like it's sucking your soul.
